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August 27, 2026, is the date we received the phone call. We knew it would come. We just didn’t know when. And even though we knew it was coming, it doesn’t change the fact that when it does, you still aren’t ready. If you have had a loved one fighting a disease, cancer, or an illness for any length of time, then you know what I am talking about when I say “The Phone Call”.

The phone call that tells you your loved one is no longer with you on this planet. The one that sends your body into shock. The phone call that brings tears to your eyes. The one that leaves a hole in your heart. No matter how long you’ve been expecting the phone call, you never know how you will actually react when you get it.

We got the phone call the evening we got back from an AMAZING Harley ride. It was just My Prince and I riding the back roads of Utah, Oregon (my 50th state!), Washington, Idaho, Montana, and Wyoming. We did six states in six days. We saw a few friends along the way and one friend who turned 90. We saw beautiful sights of pine-tree-filled mountains, mountain streams, mountain lakes, winding roads along rivers, hot natural springs, and cute little lodges. It was one of the most beautiful trips.

harley ride through idaho

Needless to say, we stopped at our favorite brewery, Offset Bier, on our way back into Park City. We were telling friends about our trip when My Rock’s sister called. I saw his face, and my heart sank. It had happened. His mother passed away. We had seen her a few weeks prior, and she looked weak, but she wanted to get back to her home. We got to hold her hand and hug her. We got to say, “I love you”.

my prince and his mom

But it still hurts when you get that phone call. You are relieved that your loved one is in a better, more peaceful place. You are relieved they aren’t hurting anymore. You are relieved they are reunited with loved ones in Heaven. But it doesn’t change the fact that it still hurts, and it leaves a void for those of us still on Earth.

family

My mother-in-law had a wonderful life. She had two beautiful children and four wonderful grandchildren. She got to see the world through her days as “Charlie”, the American Airlines Flight Attendant. After she retired, she stayed in Texas for over 20 years. We finally convinced her to move closer to family. She had a brief stay in West Virginia before living out her final few years in sunny Florida. If you are close to us, you know there are hours of stories about her adventures (or should I say misadventures) in Fort Myers. Some frustrating, some hilarious, and some unbelievable. We will have plenty of memories to talk, laugh, and cry about for years to come.

Mother in law and her grandsons

Her last few months were tough. She kept fighting pneumonia and said she felt like she was drowning. No one wants to live like that, and after fighting for several weeks, her body gave up. She was able to make it back to her assisted living apartment, where she felt at home. She went peacefully, and that’s all we can ask for.

Even though it’s still surreal, we are heading to Fort Myers this weekend to clean out her apartment. We will spend time with our family looking at pictures and reminiscing about Charlie’s life. We will celebrate what would have been her 79th birthday on Monday. We will be thankful for the time we had with her, and we will look for those Signs from Heaven that she is still here watching over us and proud of the family we have become.

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Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

I never heard this quote or anything like it until I met my husband. He read on Brian Kigh’s blog that E+R=O, which means Event + Response = Outcome. This closely resembles the quote below. Life is how we react to the events that are thrown at us. We can choose whether we react negatively or positively. We decide how strongly life’s events stay with us. Life is up to us. Choose wisely how you live it.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

~Charles R. Swindoll

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Your death is the one thing you can count on. How you live your life is up to you. You can complain that you didn’t get a fair deal or that life is too hard, but it is all what you make of it. If you don’t like your life as it is, change it. Your happiness is a choice. We all know the older we get, the closer it comes. So live life well and do it with grace and kindness. Just do unto others as you would like them to do unto you.

Your death will come on an ordinary day-in the middle of unfinished plans, unanswered messages, and dreams still in progress.

The work will keep turning…But eternity will begin.

So don’t just live a little, live for what lasts. Walk with God. Love deeply. Forgive quickly. Speak truth. Choose what honors Christ.

Because one ordinary day here becomes forever there.

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Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

Well, it’s a little late, but Happy Father’s Day to my dad, my Gramps, and to my Prince, who is a wonderful Dad to two awesome sons. And Happy Father’s Day to all the other dads, stepdads, pup dads, etc. out there. I hope you had a great weekend celebrating YOU! On Sunday, we celebrated my Heart with a Father’s Day brunch at our local Riverside Golf Course. Then we did some projects and had dinner with friends at Hitchy’s while watching the end of the US Open. It was a great day! But also a sad day because I didn’t have my dad to call to wish a Happy Father’s Day.

jeff and boys

My Dad left us 14 years ago on May 23rd, losing his battle with lung cancer. How has it been 14 years? It’s so unreal. Then, to try to wrap my head around the fact that his battle started nine years before that, when he was just 51 years old.

Fifty-one! And now I am 50. It makes me so sad when I sit still long enough to think about it. It makes me so mad. I wish he were here. I would love for Jeff to meet him. I would love for the kids to meet him. He would have loved being a grandfather. He would have loved traveling and enjoying retirement. He would have loved golfing when he could and teaching the grandkids how to change a tire. I appreciate the 36 years I had with him, but most days I wish it were more. It just sucks.

I was driving to an appointment a few weeks ago in Florida in Ellie EOS the V, which is a stickshift, and I was listening to Y2Country when Alan Jackson’s Drive came on. The song brought tears to my eyes because it reminded me of my dad. As young as we were when we had a boat, he taught us to drive it. When we were 12, he taught us how to drive a car and told us how important it was to learn to drive a stickshift. It made me appreciate all that he taught us, but also made me wish he were here to call when I was thinking about him.

dad and stacy

Why he was taken so young, I don’t know. All I know is his death taught me to live life more fully. If you follow my social media, then you see that I do try to live my life to the fullest. I most likely overcompensate for the losses in my life by trying to explore every inch of the world around me. But someone knew what was on my heart, and someone sent me my soulmate, who happens to like traveling and experiencing the world just as much as I do. They sent me someone who opened my world to things I didn’t even know were possible. And for that I appreciate. So thank you, Dad, for sending me someone who loves me as much as you loved us.

My Rock and I want to see as much of this world as possible while also wanting to make as many memories as possible. We love being around people. We love laughing and taking it all in. Of course, life isn’t all roses, but we try to make the best of what we’ve got.

jeff and stacy

I hope all the dads out there had an amazing Father’s Day, and I hope they continue to be appreciated by their children for all the amazing work that they do throughout the year. For all the dads that need to do the job of both mom and dad, I hope you know how wonderful you are and what an inspiration you are to others. And to those missing their dads like I do, keep your head up and make your father proud by living the best life that you can.

Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

I think we all try to change people, and we need to realize that we can’t. People need to change for themselves. It is not our job to judge people either. It is our job to find people we want to surround ourselves with. Surround yourself with like-minded people who are always striving to be a better version of themselves and who can help you become a better version of yourself. If they are not, then they don’t need to be in your circle.

It is not your job to police anyone else’s behavior or educate them on who you think they should be.  Your only job is to filter (for yourself) who gets a ticket into your world, and who needs to stay at the gate.

~ Amy Young

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Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

Today, I want to wish my Prince the happiest of birthdays. I am grateful that 57 years ago, my Heart was born. It’s hard to believe that we met nine years ago at a CrossFit class. I never thought that quitting my career in 2015 would have led me to care for Sweet Gram, which in turn led me to Fort Myers, which in turn led me to this amazing man.

us with gram

So Happy birthday, my Love! I hope you have an amazing day in Alaska. Although we don’t get to spend today together because of work, we had a great week celebrating you and our summer in Park City. Thank you for always being there for me, for putting effort into our relationship, and for always trying to make yourself and us better every day.  Through passion, hard work, and determination, you became a strong, kind, caring man who would do anything for your family and friends. And I am the luckiest girl in the world to be on this lifelong adventure with you!

bday boy and family

For the past nine years, we have been nonstop. You have introduced me to people and places I never dreamed of knowing. I am so grateful that we have the best friendships in the world. People always say that opposites attract, but you and I are anything but that. And it works for us. We both love seeing new things, going on new adventures, and exploring the world around us. We both want to travel to as many places as possible, and we enjoy doing that together. So here’s to another trip around the sun and another year of amazing adventures!

us at provo river falls

Happy Birthday, babe, and thank you for being mine!

Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

 

 

People may not appreciate what you do or say when you are kind and honest. And many people may not like it when you find happiness. But you need to be true to yourself and not let anyone else bring you down.

People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.

If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.

For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.

~ Mother Teresa

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Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

What we learn as we get older is that life doesn’t always go as we plan. We need to learn to control what we can and not worry about what we can’t. Life is going to throw us lemons so let’s make lemonade.

At my age, I’ve learned that most of what we worry about never happens, and most of what does happen we never saw coming. So here’s my advice: prepare for what you can, accept what you can’t, and spend more time living than worrying. The graveyards are full of people who died with perfect plans but unlived lives. Don’t be one of them.

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I saw this quote the other day on Facebook, and it hit home for me. I was just thinking now that I am 50, I have probably lived over half of my life. I doubt I will make it to 100 so I need to cherish the time I have left by living life to the fullest. I also need to evaluate what things make my life better and get rid of the things that don’t.

One day you realize you’ve probably lived more years than you have left…and suddenly you stop tolerating things that waste your life.

~ unknown

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Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

My dearest sister up in Heaven,

Well, dear sister, it’s been eight years since you left this Earth. Eight years since you have been at peace. Eight years since your body has been pain-free. Eight years since you have been reunited with our dad, grandpa, and other relatives who have gone before you. Eight years since you were taken into the Kingdom of Heaven, and God wrapped his arms around you. Eight years since you have been wrapping your arms around those entering Heaven who have no one to greet them.

And for all those things, I am truly happy for you and find comfort in those thoughts.

But, dear sister, there are many times when I am just sad. I miss my best friend. I miss having you to talk to. I miss your levelheadedness, your compassion for others, and your advice. I miss how well you knew me, which was probably better than I knew myself. I miss that you were always right (mostly:)) and I appreciated that. I miss that we grew up in the same house and the same town and could talk about memories that happened way back when. I miss that I don’t have you to share this life with anymore. It leaves the biggest hole in my heart.

sister

And for all those things, I am truly sad and heartbroken.

So, dear sister, I will honor your spirit by sharing my memories with people who knew you and even those who didn’t. I will honor you by showing your pictures and videos to your children who want to know who their mother was. I will cherish your memory by looking at old photos and explaining the memory to whoever will listen. I will honor you by living my life to the fullest because I know that life is precious and at any moment I may be called up to sit at the table next to you.

sister's kids

And for all those things, I need to be strong and let your spirit guide me.

In the end, dear sister, I am grateful for the 38 years we had together. I am grateful for your loving ways and kindness that you carried with you throughout your life. I am grateful for my beautiful niece and fearless nephew, who are growing up into amazing young people. I am grateful for the loving woman, (one day to become their stepmother) and the amazing, fun-loving step-siblings you guided into their lives. Continue to watch over all of us, especially our mother, who misses you more than words can say.

me and sister in law

We love you and miss you, dear sister. Send us Signs from Heaven to comfort us whenever possible. We will be on the lookout!

Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy