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August 27, 2026, is the date we received the phone call. We knew it would come. We just didn’t know when. And even though we knew it was coming, it doesn’t change the fact that when it does, you still aren’t ready. If you have had a loved one fighting a disease, cancer, or an illness for any length of time, then you know what I am talking about when I say “The Phone Call”.

The phone call that tells you your loved one is no longer with you on this planet. The one that sends your body into shock. The phone call that brings tears to your eyes. The one that leaves a hole in your heart. No matter how long you’ve been expecting the phone call, you never know how you will actually react when you get it.

We got the phone call the evening we got back from an AMAZING Harley ride. It was just My Prince and I riding the back roads of Utah, Oregon (my 50th state!), Washington, Idaho, Montana, and Wyoming. We did six states in six days. We saw a few friends along the way and one friend who turned 90. We saw beautiful sights of pine-tree-filled mountains, mountain streams, mountain lakes, winding roads along rivers, hot natural springs, and cute little lodges. It was one of the most beautiful trips.

harley ride through idaho

Needless to say, we stopped at our favorite brewery, Offset Bier, on our way back into Park City. We were telling friends about our trip when My Rock’s sister called. I saw his face, and my heart sank. It had happened. His mother passed away. We had seen her a few weeks prior, and she looked weak, but she wanted to get back to her home. We got to hold her hand and hug her. We got to say, “I love you”.

my prince and his mom

But it still hurts when you get that phone call. You are relieved that your loved one is in a better, more peaceful place. You are relieved they aren’t hurting anymore. You are relieved they are reunited with loved ones in Heaven. But it doesn’t change the fact that it still hurts, and it leaves a void for those of us still on Earth.

family

My mother-in-law had a wonderful life. She had two beautiful children and four wonderful grandchildren. She got to see the world through her days as “Charlie”, the American Airlines Flight Attendant. After she retired, she stayed in Texas for over 20 years. We finally convinced her to move closer to family. She had a brief stay in West Virginia before living out her final few years in sunny Florida. If you are close to us, you know there are hours of stories about her adventures (or should I say misadventures) in Fort Myers. Some frustrating, some hilarious, and some unbelievable. We will have plenty of memories to talk, laugh, and cry about for years to come.

Mother in law and her grandsons

Her last few months were tough. She kept fighting pneumonia and said she felt like she was drowning. No one wants to live like that, and after fighting for several weeks, her body gave up. She was able to make it back to her assisted living apartment, where she felt at home. She went peacefully, and that’s all we can ask for.

Even though it’s still surreal, we are heading to Fort Myers this weekend to clean out her apartment. We will spend time with our family looking at pictures and reminiscing about Charlie’s life. We will celebrate what would have been her 79th birthday on Monday. We will be thankful for the time we had with her, and we will look for those Signs from Heaven that she is still here watching over us and proud of the family we have become.

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I never heard this quote or anything like it until I met my husband. He read on Brian Kigh’s blog that E+R=O, which means Event + Response = Outcome. This closely resembles the quote below. Life is how we react to the events that are thrown at us. We can choose whether we react negatively or positively. We decide how strongly life’s events stay with us. Life is up to us. Choose wisely how you live it.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

~Charles R. Swindoll

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Your death is the one thing you can count on. How you live your life is up to you. You can complain that you didn’t get a fair deal or that life is too hard, but it is all what you make of it. If you don’t like your life as it is, change it. Your happiness is a choice. We all know the older we get, the closer it comes. So live life well and do it with grace and kindness. Just do unto others as you would like them to do unto you.

Your death will come on an ordinary day-in the middle of unfinished plans, unanswered messages, and dreams still in progress.

The work will keep turning…But eternity will begin.

So don’t just live a little, live for what lasts. Walk with God. Love deeply. Forgive quickly. Speak truth. Choose what honors Christ.

Because one ordinary day here becomes forever there.

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Well, it’s a little late, but Happy Father’s Day to my dad, my Gramps, and to my Prince, who is a wonderful Dad to two awesome sons. And Happy Father’s Day to all the other dads, stepdads, pup dads, etc. out there. I hope you had a great weekend celebrating YOU! On Sunday, we celebrated my Heart with a Father’s Day brunch at our local Riverside Golf Course. Then we did some projects and had dinner with friends at Hitchy’s while watching the end of the US Open. It was a great day! But also a sad day because I didn’t have my dad to call to wish a Happy Father’s Day.

jeff and boys

My Dad left us 14 years ago on May 23rd, losing his battle with lung cancer. How has it been 14 years? It’s so unreal. Then, to try to wrap my head around the fact that his battle started nine years before that, when he was just 51 years old.

Fifty-one! And now I am 50. It makes me so sad when I sit still long enough to think about it. It makes me so mad. I wish he were here. I would love for Jeff to meet him. I would love for the kids to meet him. He would have loved being a grandfather. He would have loved traveling and enjoying retirement. He would have loved golfing when he could and teaching the grandkids how to change a tire. I appreciate the 36 years I had with him, but most days I wish it were more. It just sucks.

I was driving to an appointment a few weeks ago in Florida in Ellie EOS the V, which is a stickshift, and I was listening to Y2Country when Alan Jackson’s Drive came on. The song brought tears to my eyes because it reminded me of my dad. As young as we were when we had a boat, he taught us to drive it. When we were 12, he taught us how to drive a car and told us how important it was to learn to drive a stickshift. It made me appreciate all that he taught us, but also made me wish he were here to call when I was thinking about him.

dad and stacy

Why he was taken so young, I don’t know. All I know is his death taught me to live life more fully. If you follow my social media, then you see that I do try to live my life to the fullest. I most likely overcompensate for the losses in my life by trying to explore every inch of the world around me. But someone knew what was on my heart, and someone sent me my soulmate, who happens to like traveling and experiencing the world just as much as I do. They sent me someone who opened my world to things I didn’t even know were possible. And for that I appreciate. So thank you, Dad, for sending me someone who loves me as much as you loved us.

My Rock and I want to see as much of this world as possible while also wanting to make as many memories as possible. We love being around people. We love laughing and taking it all in. Of course, life isn’t all roses, but we try to make the best of what we’ve got.

jeff and stacy

I hope all the dads out there had an amazing Father’s Day, and I hope they continue to be appreciated by their children for all the amazing work that they do throughout the year. For all the dads that need to do the job of both mom and dad, I hope you know how wonderful you are and what an inspiration you are to others. And to those missing their dads like I do, keep your head up and make your father proud by living the best life that you can.

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Today, I want to wish my Prince the happiest of birthdays. I am grateful that 57 years ago, my Heart was born. It’s hard to believe that we met nine years ago at a CrossFit class. I never thought that quitting my career in 2015 would have led me to care for Sweet Gram, which in turn led me to Fort Myers, which in turn led me to this amazing man.

us with gram

So Happy birthday, my Love! I hope you have an amazing day in Alaska. Although we don’t get to spend today together because of work, we had a great week celebrating you and our summer in Park City. Thank you for always being there for me, for putting effort into our relationship, and for always trying to make yourself and us better every day.  Through passion, hard work, and determination, you became a strong, kind, caring man who would do anything for your family and friends. And I am the luckiest girl in the world to be on this lifelong adventure with you!

bday boy and family

For the past nine years, we have been nonstop. You have introduced me to people and places I never dreamed of knowing. I am so grateful that we have the best friendships in the world. People always say that opposites attract, but you and I are anything but that. And it works for us. We both love seeing new things, going on new adventures, and exploring the world around us. We both want to travel to as many places as possible, and we enjoy doing that together. So here’s to another trip around the sun and another year of amazing adventures!

us at provo river falls

Happy Birthday, babe, and thank you for being mine!

Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

 

 

What we learn as we get older is that life doesn’t always go as we plan. We need to learn to control what we can and not worry about what we can’t. Life is going to throw us lemons so let’s make lemonade.

At my age, I’ve learned that most of what we worry about never happens, and most of what does happen we never saw coming. So here’s my advice: prepare for what you can, accept what you can’t, and spend more time living than worrying. The graveyards are full of people who died with perfect plans but unlived lives. Don’t be one of them.

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I saw this quote the other day on Facebook, and it hit home for me. I was just thinking now that I am 50, I have probably lived over half of my life. I doubt I will make it to 100 so I need to cherish the time I have left by living life to the fullest. I also need to evaluate what things make my life better and get rid of the things that don’t.

One day you realize you’ve probably lived more years than you have left…and suddenly you stop tolerating things that waste your life.

~ unknown

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Let’s try to stay present in each moment. Enjoy where we are in life. Too many times, we are rushing or striving for the next greatest thing instead of just enjoying where we are and how far we’ve come.

You’re constantly worrying about the next part of your life without realizing that you’re right in the middle of what you used to look forward to.

~ Power of Positivity

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When I first started this blog, I was posting an inspirational quote every day, as well as a Tuesday post, a Wednesday workout, and a Friday Fixin’ recipe. It gave me an outlet when my hubby was working and Gram and I were sitting around the house. When Sweet Gram passed away in February of 2021, life became very busy, and I found I was Never Home. It soon became too much; therefore, I dropped down to two posts a month and once a week, Weekly Wednesday Words for inspiration. Decisions have never been easy for me, but starting this blog was one of the best decisions I ever made.

This past year, I have found that I am lucky to write once a month, and I started wondering if I should quit the blog. Time just slips away from me. When I am home, sometimes I don’t want to do anything but lie on the couch and watch a mindless TV show. And when we are traveling, I try to be present in the moment instead of being on the computer. Anyway, I thank my loyal readers who have subscribed or clicked on the social media link when I post. I really appreciate it when you send texts or emails to let me know you enjoyed reading a story. Thank you!

It’s been five and a half years since I started this blog, Inspired And Strong, and I love it. I love writing, and I hope that some of my stories have inspired you to go on new adventures, have encouraged you to start a new chapter in your life, or have motivated you to make the world a better place by holding the door open for someone or putting your shopping cart back. Whatever this blog means to you, I do hope you enjoy it.

Recently, I have been contemplating life’s decisions. I know sometimes people have a difficult time when they retire because they end up losing their purpose in life and aren’t sure what to do. I have been “retired” from the field of education for almost 11 years now. I have done remote work for my school system, got my travel agent and real estate licenses, worked in an ice cream shop, and was a receptionist at a chiropractor’s office. Although I enjoyed all of those jobs, nothing has stuck as a career path. I love doing this blog, but it’s not a moneymaker. And I don’t need money to make it worthwhile but I get frustrated because I would love to be a better travel agent or real estate agent, but seems education is the only career in which I feel confident.

I was trained in education and had 16 years of experience. With all of the other careers I have started, I don’t feel like I have a firm foundation. I don’t feel like anyone has taken me under their wing to jumpstart my career. I am at a loss on which career path to follow.

When I had Sweet Gram, I had a purpose and enjoyed caring for her. Since she passed, I don’t know exactly what my purpose is. I enjoy being a Pilot’s Wife and am grateful for all of the experiences I have had. I can’t have a “normal” job because I have FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and definitely don’t want to miss out on the next big adventure! But I also want to feel like I am making a difference on this Earth. Hence, my dificulty with decisions!

I enjoy writing, and maybe I should concentrate on writing my book like Jake the Medium said. Or maybe I should get my real estate license again and try to sell houses. Or maybe I quit trying to force it and enjoy the journey.

In the end, one decision I did make was that I am not quite ready to give up my blog. My posts may be few and far between, but I hope you will subscribe and read them when they do arrive in your inbox. I hope they continue to inspire you. I also hope you will go back and read the daily inspirations if you’re having a down day.

Life can be hard. Decisions are hard. But somehow we all end up exactly where we are supposed to be. So let’s try to enjoy the ride.

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Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

A lot of times, we need to realize that when someone lashes out at you, the problem is really about something that is going on inside of them. They may be having a bad day, and instead of pausing and trying to turn their day around, they take their frustrations out on other people.  Maturity is realizing that and not lashing back and not taking it personally.

Maturity is realizing most things aren’t about you. The bad driver is having their own day. The short email has nothing to do with your worth. The friend who didn’t call back is fighting their own battles. Taking things less personally is a skill that creates space for peace.

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Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy