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Over the past weekend, we laid Gram, our Matriarch, to rest next to her husband, at a cemetery bordering the campus of the old Alliance College. My grandparents had a profound impact on many of the students at the college as well as many others in the community. This is a tribute from one of my grandpa’s former players.

Mrs. Haluch, our Matriarch. 

I had the pleasure of meeting Mrs. Haluch over 60 years ago.

In 1957 to be exact…when I was a scared, skinny teenager…with only one suitcase in hand…arriving in Cambridge Springs as a Freshman at Alliance College.  She was the first person to make me feel at home.  She had two kids of her own, as Stanley and Tusha were young children at the time…yet still had time for me.

I’ve been blessed with over six decades of memories filled with that smile, that giggle…and her voice saying “Bobby, you don’t mind that I still call you Bobby?”  I would say without hesitation, “NO Mrs. Haluch…I love that you call me Bobby.”

Many of us associate all of our Cambridge Springs memories with Coach Haluch…but if you really think about it…many of those are linked directly to…Mrs. Haluch.   A quiet, gentle, and incredibly strong woman.  A leader in her family…her church…and her community.

Remembering those wonderful days playing basketball and baseball for Coach…well…who do you think washed all of those uniforms for so many years? Mrs. Haluch.

All of the Alliance Reunions over the years…there she was making us all feel welcome…     making over 500 perogies…yes 500, so when we stopped by over during the weekend, we’d all have something to eat.  Always the consummate hostess.

When we would visit on a weekend, we’d go to church before heading back home.  You could hear a beautiful voice coming from the choir loft. That’s Mrs. Haluch.

As the years went on…the mentorship continued with Coach and Mrs. Haluch…and a beautiful deeper friendship grew with our family.

Enjoying a Pirate Games at PNC Park…a couple of years ago…the usher giving her a game ball because he couldn’t resist that smile and twinkle in her eye.

Sitting watching a football game at their house…when Mrs. Haluch would blurt out a player’s name, position…and something interesting about them.

Such wonderful sunny days on Ft. Myers Beach.  I would sit and talk with Coach and Mrs. Haluch would stroll the beach picking up shells with my wife and daughter.  Then we would spend hours laughing…and eating… as we looked out over the Gulf of Mexico.  Those are some of my most cherished memories.

At Coach’s 90th Birthday…who do you think stole the show?  Mrs. Haluch…dancing with the toy soldier…she looked just like Cinderella.

In more recent years we were blessed to get to know Stacy…she has been an angel to         Mrs. Haluch.  The two of them…two peas in a pod.  Their endless adventures are epic, but what was so special to me…was Stacy’s selfless and tireless dedication to her Gram.  That is something that is so rare in today’s society.  Stacy…that gift of time with you were given with your Gram…and Matriarch…will remain in your heart forever.

We would try to give Stacy a little break and take Mrs. Haluch on day trips to Waterford and Erie.   Our lunches were filled with good food from Carini’s…but of course, it was all about the pie for Mrs. Haluch…the car rides were equally special…when she would tell tales of countless good times her and Coach had over the years.

Our destination was always the Casino, where she would sit at her penny machine having a high old time flanked by my wife and daughter.  The best experience…was when she hit the jackpot and thought she broke the machine.  We still laugh at the moment when the bells and lights started flashing and ringing and she turned to me and said… “Bobby I think I broke the machine.”

For such a tiny statured woman…she was a Giant…a giant to all of us.                                 Making a Big impact in each of our lives. 

Mrs. Haluch was… 

The Matriarch of her beloved family – to her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

The Matriarch of Alliance College

The Matriarch of Cambridge Springs

I imagine and smile thinking about…Mrs. Haluch and Coach enjoying endless polkas and perogies…in Heaven…

I love you Mrs. Haluch.  Thank you for being a Matriarch in my family too.

Love,

Bobby F.

Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

Ingredients

  • 5 avocados
  • 1/2 lime squeezed
  • 1 tomato chopped
  • 1/4 onion chopped
  • pepper and garlic salt/powder to taste

Stacy’s Suggestions and Preparation

  1. Mashup avocados
  2. Cut up onions and tomato
  3. Squeeze in lime
  4. Season with pepper and garlic salt
  5. Mix all together.
  6. Serve with your choice of chips.
  7. For another easy recipe, click here.

Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

Equipment Needed

  • ab mat

Weekly Wednesday Workout

In this 15-minute ab workout, you will do each exercise for about 50-55 seconds before transitioning into the next move. You will have two minutes of rest within the 15 minutes.

  • crunches
  • sit-ups
  • bicycles
  • knees up
  • leg lifts
  • rest
  • flutter kicks
  • russian twists
  • knees to left side
  • knees to right side
  • rest
  • plank
  • side plank left
  • side plank right
  • plank taps
  • walking plank

How to Do the Moves

For video click here. Remember there are always modifications. Let me know if you need help or suggestions. You can always add weight to make the movements more challenging. Don’t forget to warm-up. Make this workout work for you!

Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy

Last Wednesday we got the call that we had been anticipating, but never wanted to answer. Gram was unresponsive at 4:40 that morning. We had just made arrangements to bring her back to our home. She hadn’t been eating, drinking, or really talking for about a week. On Tuesday, we had decided to bring her home in Hospice care to live out her final days by the pool, her favorite spot. As you read in Missing Gram, we put her into Senior Living in November 2020.

losing gram steelers shirt

The hospital bed was in place waiting for her, but I guess she didn’t want to be a burden. She always said that to us, which of course we never thought she was. I guess she didn’t want to put us through having to watch her go. When we left Tuesday, I hugged her so tight. I told her we were bringing her home. I told her she could come to sit by the pool and sleep with Kuma, her favorite feline. But I guess she wanted it another way.

It hurts my heart so much that she is gone. I knew the day would come, but over the past few years, she has defied death so many times that we thought she would live forever!  This woman…so strong, so mighty, so inspiring. She is in heaven now dancing the polka with her hubby (and possibly giving him a piece of her mind 😂) It won’t be the same. We are sad about our loss, but we are excited for her reunion with her husband, son, son-in-law, and granddaughter. Gram, please tell them we love and miss them. 

losing gram stacy jeff and gram

I am grateful that the road I took led me to caregiving for Gram. It led me to my husband, wonderful friends, and amazing adventures. I will never regret one moment with her. She told me once I was like the sister she never had, and she was my best friend, always there to listen (whether she wanted to or not).

gram and stacy doing a shot skiAlthough she is gone and I won’t have any new adventures with her, I plan on continuing to write about our past outings. Even though she isn’t on this earth anymore she will forever be in my heart inspiring me and pushing me to do the right thing and live life to the fullest.

Viewing and the funeral will be in Pennsylvania on March 5 and 6. Click here for details. We will also do a celebration of life in Fort Myers, Florida in April.

Stay Strong & Be Inspired, Stacy